July 15th, 2025
posted by [syndicated profile] slacktivist_feed at 03:12am on 15/07/2025
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posted by [personal profile] conuly at 02:35pm on 16/07/2025
Nonstandard and informal are not synonyms. Dialectal and informal are not synonyms. Regional and informal are not synonyms. You can speak formally even if you're speaking a nonstandard regional dialect.

Everybody needs to stop saying that dialect words are, ipso facto, informal.

Edit: On a different note, omfg this dude.

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bluapapilio: boufuurin from wind breaker (winbre boufuurin)
Spoilers ⬇️

Wind Breaker
season 2

Episode 5: Ahh I cried. The tightrope scene was so intense. And then Sugishita...;;

I love seeing things animated and hearing the voice acting so much. Kiryuu's "doesn't that hurt your eyes?" when Tsuge says he can't close his eyes when shampooing. 😂 Everyone ganging up on Suou about the nattou!! Sakura's laugh and everyone's reaction!

The Tsubaki/Sakura scene!! Nirei's gentle expression towards Sakura!

Tsubaki putting Sakura's soul back in his body is the funniest thing ever. And I laughed my head off at Sakura's trembling stew. 🤣🤣🤣

I feel like Tsubaki and Umemiya already had a talk about Tsubaki's feelings or there was already an implicit understanding from the beginning that it was one-sided. If Umemiya returned the feelings he would have said.

It's always interesting to see how US fandom people react to trans or crossdressing characters. Tsubakino is confirmed to be a guy by an interview with the author. He likes presenting femme and uses the feminine 'atashi'. If he were born in the US I really do feel he'd use she/her. A lot of people in US fandom still use those pronouns for him.

In a lot of JP media there's a stereotype used in gay bars etc that's pretty much 'transvestite' or sometimes just 'gay' in non-BL, and they're a very exaggerated masculine type sometimes with dark stubble on their face.

Even well-meaning authors (who are cis especially) were born in a society that perpetuates stereotypes and have barriers to understanding the experience that lead them to conclusions that don't go far enough.

So trans women etc are not presented in the best light. X-gender is more accepted these days. Most characters are just seen as crossdressers even when they explicitly say they "have the heart of a woman" or use feminine pronouns. Obvs. not all crossdressers or femme-presenting chars want to be (are) another gender but it's noticeable when very few of them do.

So yeah, a lot of work needs to be done to get to a point where there's more representation than just crossdressing. Or those male power fantasy stories where he gets reincarnated in the body of a woman but there's no difference, it never explores what that really means, it's like he was a woman all along.

Aaand that was a tangent on what was a reaction post lol
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posted by [personal profile] fox in [community profile] agonyaunt at 09:48am on 14/07/2025 under ,

Dear Miss Manners: The neighbor who lives directly across the street from me parks in front of my house. If this was occasional, I wouldn’t care, but it’s become the daily routine. I can’t imagine consistently doing this.

I enjoy looking out my window in the evening, but now my view is a car every night.

Today a work truck parked in front of my house, so the neighbor parked in their own driveway (which is always clear, as is their curb). When the truck left, they moved their car back to my curb, leaving their driveway empty the rest of the day.

I realize this could sound petty, but our other neighbors respect this unwritten rule.

In addition to unwritten, the rule is possibly unknown to this neighbor. Miss Manners trusts that you don’t think the car is purposely parked with the intention of blocking your view, and that you realize that others have a legal right to park on a public street.

Therefore, the neighbor would be doing you a favor by refraining from parking there. And to ask a favor requires purging any annoyance you feel and admitting that complying would be a voluntary kindness.

An amusing confession of your staring-out-the-window habit would be more effective than an admonishment for violating neighborhood expectations.

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I’m a 20-year-old male college student who met someone new this spring. We clicked instantly and have been dating a few months. He visited me at college, and we’re both living in New York this summer. We enjoy lovely dinners and each other’s company with almost no issues, except one major sore spot.

I recently let him know I’m not interested in monogamy right now. Having been in a long-distance monogamous relationship before, the pressure and trust issues made me skeptical of that norm. I explained that because of my past, I struggle to feel deeply sexually attracted to someone I actually care about. We have OK sex, but it lacks the fire of casual hookups. I also explained that my interest in nonmonogamy was less about actively seeking others and more about lessening the pressure around potential lapses during travel or because of distance.

He seemed to take it all right, but I later discovered that within two weeks, he slept with three people without telling me — supposedly to avoid getting cuckolded or looking foolish. I haven’t seen anyone else in the meantime, so now I guess I look foolish. When I confronted him about acting out of anger rather than communicating, he immediately blamed my original sin of wanting nonmonogamy, which he says is for “hippies and sex addicts.”

I told him how I’ve seen relationships, including my parents’, destroyed by infidelity and deception. I asked whether he would prefer a relationship filled with lies or one built on honesty — to which he said he would rather not be with me at all, which definitely hurt.

To ease tensions, I agreed to four months of exclusivity to see where we stand. I emphasized my reluctance to rush things, especially because I haven’t felt deep love or trust yet and can see that he is much more into me than I am into him. Continuing, even not in my preferred way, seemed better than cutting off someone I care about.

But I’m still curious about nonmonogamy, especially while I’m young and good-looking and trying to understand which relationship styles work for me. Should I suppress my bohemian urges and go along with his desire for exclusivity or attempt another structured conversation about it? Am I too young for this to matter or is this actually the best time to test boundaries? Any thoughts on examining this situation and mending resentments before they spiral?


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bluapapilio: Izumi from A3! (a3! izumi)

I Reincarnated into an Otome Game as a Villainess
with Only Destruction Flags

Season 1


Episode 10: Lmao judgement day ended up being all her friends calling her too dumb to do all the bad things said of her.

NOO Maria! She was the only one who saw something was wrong and went along to check it out. Why didn't she she ask someone to go with her or tell someone what she saw??

Bakarina going back to class alone too. *smh*

Whew, a lot happened at once, I forgot about Catarina talking to her friend from her original world about the secret route.

Episode 11: I really like being able to see 'Catarina' as her original self, man I wish villainess/isekai stories would do that more.

Ahh the Saiyuuki reference!!

Too bad there's not a spell where you can go into someone's consciousness like in Paradox Live to wake them up.

Somehow Anne being upset was more upsetting to me than anyone else. :'(

...Now I want to see everyone taking turns giving Catarina water mouth-to-mouth. I don't really like Geordo x Catarina. Honestly I really only like Catarina/Maria. Of course polyam would be number 1 but a couple of them would hate that, mainly Geordo.

I spoke too soon, Sophia/Acchan did go into Catarina's consciousness. I teared up at Acchan and Catarina's parting ahh. But how are Sophia and Acchan connected exactly??

I'm never gonna take the name 'Sirius Dick Dieke' seriously with the way it's pronounced in Japanese.
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posted by [personal profile] conuly at 04:45pm on 15/07/2025
but it turned out to be a big bag of dog food.

This is... not so great, really.

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July 13th, 2025
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posted by [personal profile] conuly in [community profile] agonyaunt at 07:00pm on 13/07/2025
Dear Carolyn: I have an older sister, “Amy,” who was prettier and more outgoing than I was, so I kind of lived in her shadow, but I adored her and she was always my best friend growing up. Her sophomore year of college, I found out from a friend at her school that she was doing drugs and her boyfriend was a dealer. She’d secretly dropped half her courses and was barely passing the rest. I offered to find her some help, but she just ridiculed me. As things worsened, I was worried about her, so I told our parents. She lied and said I’d made the whole thing up because I was so jealous of her. My parents believed her and even said I might need therapy for telling a lie that big, until she was arrested a few months later and the whole truth came out.

For years following, she kept lying, stole so much money from me, wrecked my car and said/did many other horrible things to me. I moved away and cut her out of my life. She skipped out on her treatment program and got arrested again.

Last year, Amy completed rehab and is supposedly clean. She also had a baby last month, has minimal support from the father and is back living with my parents.

They want me to forgive and forget and be part of my nephew’s life, but I see it as insisting I give Amy another chance to hurt me. I still have so much resentment against her. I don’t want to take it out on her son, but I can’t stand the thought of being around her. She never apologized or tried to make amends for all she put me through, and I’m not sure I could ever trust her again. Is it even worth trying to be a part of my nephew’s life when I feel that way about his mom?
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posted by [personal profile] used_songs at 03:27pm on 13/07/2025 under
Challenge #4

Fun House
Journaling: What is making you smile these days? Create a top 10 list of anything you want to talk about.

1. Ellita
2. Feeling hopeful about work (but also nervous)
3. Watching Ted Lasso with E (y’all were SO right! Thank you for encouraging me to stick with it)
4. My plants/garden
5. Sitting in the hammock with Ellita and talking with E
6. Having the time and energy to read
7. HEB Peach Guava sparkling water
8. Postcrossing
9. Changing up my work wardrobe
10. Having my ear piercings reopened so that I can wear earrings again
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Dear Annie: I have a frustrating problem with my mother. I'm 40 years old, but she still treats me like I'm a teenager. She expects me to answer every call immediately and freaks out if I'm unavailable, often roping in my cousin to text me if I don't respond since my mom doesn't know how.

This has been going on since I was a teen. When I was 18, I was expected to call when I left or arrived anywhere. I once forgot to call her after leaving a bookstore, and by the time I got to the library, I was accosted by three separate employees saying my mother had been calling. My aunt and cousin think it's a cute story, not infuriating like I do.

Last year, I mentioned I was heading to Walmart. Remember that I'm 40. I didn't check my phone for 10 whole minutes, and in that short time, my mom called several times and had our cousin text to "see if I was OK."

Most recently, I missed a text and then a call from my cousin -- she was picking me up -- because my phone was on silent after I got home from work and I'd stepped into the bathroom. My mom later confronted me about the "stunt" I pulled, how it was so rude I'd done that and told my cousin they shouldn't pick me up anymore.

How do I explain to her that she's suffocating me? I know she worries, but I'm 40 years old. I'm not a highly sought after princess the world is about to kidnap at any moment; I'm just another random person, not a highly coveted commodity. The more she does this, the more she pushes me away. -- Smothered in a Small Town


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Chapter 7:
Sakura really needs to stop assuming things about Nozaki...

Omg Nozaki can be so petty, he hates being given ideas he already had so he won't use them or he'll mess them up on purpose. 😂

Chapter 8: So this is the chapter a famous certain anime scene was based on!

I would not choose the angry girl unless I wanted to live with that the rest of my life;; Also don't take advice on real women from media written by men.

TOMODAA!!! I love how into the idea of Tomoda having feelings for the MC Nozaki and Mikoshiba got. :') I love that they literally created a doujinshi, too bad they won't publish it.

Same-sex marriage is legal in Japan now, they can give them a wedding!

Chapter 9: ...If I were Miyako I would've changed editors the first time they wanted me to put an out of place tanuki in every panel.



Oh no, her editor is Nozaki's old one. 😭

Chapter 10: Would Nozaki really care if Kashima knew he was a mangaka? Instead Sakura made her think Nozaki and Hori are sleeping together. 🤣

Kashima's true personality is so funny. Dense and goofy. Lmao Hori wouldn't tell her if he got a girlfriend because she'd steal them from him.

The whole reading-the-script part slayed me!

Extra:
So Hori didn't notice Kashima was a girl when she was wearing a skirt and invited her to be the hero in a play, he only noticed when she literally went into the women's changing room. That's kind of based? Like, he didn't assume. ...Or he just didn't notice.
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bluapapilio: vertin from the game reverse 1999 (reverse1999 vertin)
Instructional and Educational VHS Tapes on the Internet Archive - Scrolling through these is wild.

jp users learning about 'fujoshing out'

Vimm's old school games - I got the first Persona game from here!

Trope Talk: Timeloops

What happened to bridges in pop songs? - I don't keep up with what's popular but this is interesting and I need to get some of the songs used in this video!

How “This Didn’t Age Well” Destroyed Media Literacy - A thousand times THIS. I need everyone to watch this.
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and completion of orientation. They really are taking anybody with a pulse, as judged by the extremely detailed list of instructions for appropriate behavior during orientation. I'd be more insulted, but that's good for me, I really need a job. If they had higher standards they would hire somebody with formal work experience, or at least an associate's degree.

(Don't think I've stopped applying other places, mind you, but I'm really not in a position to be picky, either.)

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Well... if you're interested in reading a book about how living in an over-privileged Connecticut town is terrible and nobody should ever do it (especially if that's going to intersect badly with their terrible childhood) then this is a book you'll like. I preferred Dreadful - the realism : magic ratio in this book leaned a little too realistic, also, I just do not believe that the only school choices are a. fancy schools for wealthy overachievers that have massively high standards and high stakes testing b. xenophobic schools with very low standards and c. homeschooling. Even if there are no public school options there still have to be artsy fartsy schools for wealthy people who know that their kids cannot do the pressure cooker thing starting in kindy.
July 12th, 2025
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posted by [personal profile] dancing_serpent in [community profile] c_ent at 01:55pm on 12/07/2025 under
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Whatever it is, talk to us about it here. Tell us what you liked or didn't like, and if you want to talk about spoilery things, please hide them under either of these codes:
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posted by [syndicated profile] slacktivist_feed at 09:12pm on 11/07/2025

Posted by Fred Clark

Rapture Christianity claims the Bible it true for YOU, but that it wasn't true for every Christian who ever lived and died before special, oh so special, you.
bluapapilio: headphones connected to a heart (listening pleasure)
posted by [personal profile] bluapapilio at 03:05pm on 11/07/2025 under ,
@ Spotify

From the sound, the sound
The world is spitting out
Only love can save me now
Gone so down
Lost is all I found
Only love, love, love can save me now
🎤
The Pretty Reckless -
Only Love Can Save Me Now
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I started playing Persona 5: The Phantom X and am enjoying it but I have a confession to make...I've never played any of the original games. I have watched some of a let's play for P5, watched the anime for that and for P4 and read a little of the P3 manga but I think that's it (besides reading AkeShu fic). I never planned to actually play the games for reasons I don't remember (though P5 made me consider it). Now I've changed my mind and am diving in with the first game. I got it through Vimms which gathers old school games.

So far? It's good to know that the music was good from the beginning! Navigating the school's hallways makes me dizzy, does it go that fast on the original console?? I hope I didn't miss anything because I kept getting lost lol

The designs are very interesting, they all look American or English. In JP Masao's mom calls calls him Maa-kun so the EN version called him 'Mark' as a nickname. Looks like Hidehiko's nickname is the same in the JP.

Masao is sweet with Maki, seems he can be reliable. :)

I don't normally play with English voices but beggars can't be choosers and the voices aren't bad here.

Yamaoka and Nanjou's relationship is funny and sweet too.

Oh no you have to pick your stats in this game? I'll just follow this.

In a hospital full of doctors Yamaoka still wasn't helped by anyone. 😵 Also that promise he made Nanjou make...may as well ask him to become the emperor;; Agh poor Nanjou, I hope this group all become close so he doesn't feel so alone.

I don't like that it's not clear what you're supposed to be doing at any given time. No quest log or tracking. If you stop playing for a while it can take a bit to remember what you're doing. Sometimes characters remind you but...Instead of safe rooms there are 'Agastya trees' where you can save.

Maki showed up at the school with no memory, she probably didn't even realize her mom was injured in the infirmary. Masao get captured by the demons and apparently they just put him in jail instead of killing him?? They even put the key in the key box lol

Oh ok apparently demons can take over humans??

I'm curious how the earthquake, Maki's waking and the DEVA system are connected, plus Maki's missing friend? And of course Personas. Apparently anyone can have them, not just heroes.

Noo, using Persona skills isn't part of auto?!

I love how irritable the characters get when you don't go to the next quest point fast enough. Sorry but exploration is life!!

In the Abandoned Werehouse, how do they know Ayase doesn't have a Persona too, since it's happened to the last few people who joined before?? Now she's in danger on her own. Also with the school going under, I hope Maki's mom is okay.
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posted by [personal profile] conuly at 01:52pm on 12/07/2025
Adrian Tchaikovsky is amazingly hit-or-miss for me, but this looks like it's coming up "hit". The sapient arthropods are a swarm of bees. If there are any spiders, I haven't met them yet!
July 11th, 2025
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posted by [personal profile] antisoppist at 04:35pm on 11/07/2025
While doing very boring work, I listen to spoken radio, which because BBC Sounds recommendations and "your next episode" are rubbish*, means going back through the schedules of Radio 4 and Radio 4 extra day by day and seeing what's been on. Yes I could Subscribe to Podcasts but I've been listening to speech radio since I was recording it on my cassette player I was given when I was 7 so I could listen to it again, and I like being in control and searching for what I want rather than having things piling up like an external obligation. So using this method, recently I have listened to:

1977 by Sarah Wooley
Which is a play about Angela Morley composing the music for Watership Down. Before transitioning, Angela Morley had written and arranged music for the Goon Show and wrote the theme tune to Hancock's Half Hour, and the play begins when Malcolm Williamson, Master of the Queen's Music is overwhelmed with writing music for the Queen's Silver Jubilee and has totally forgotten he is supposed to also be writing the soundtrack to Watership Down. Several times in this play people say something like "Oh God, the rabbits!" Malcolm Williamson is really not in a good place and stops answering the door and then runs away to the Carmargue with his (male) publisher, leaving not very many minutes of not arranged music with the symphony orchestra and the recording studio booked for something like 10 days' time. And people go "oh shit" and "the only person who can do this is Angela Morley" and go and grovel and promise it's not going to be about her, it's all for the sake of the rabbits and persuade her to just watch the film, no strings, and of course she does it and it's brilliant. 

Limelight: Pretender Prince
about Bonnie Prince Charlie and the 1745 Jacobite rebellion
This is part drama and part author (Colin MacDonald) telling us why he has dramatised it the way he has, and part interjections from historians, which worked much better across all the episodes than I thought it would the first time the drama was interrupted by the writer or the historians. Bonnie Prince Charlie doesn't come out of it all very well. The only Stuart history I did at school (in England) was James I to Civil War and death of Charles I (A-level) so all I really know about that bit comes from folk songs. So it was good and I enjoyed it.

As it's a Limelight drama it might be available as a podcast other than on BBC Sounds which now won't let you listen to it outside the UK. I've liked a lot of the Limelight ones, though they tend to be tense thrillers and not about Bonnie Prince Charlie, but I dislike the way BBC Sounds views all of them as a series and is now telling me to continue listening to my "next episode", which is about the CIA and not at all the same thing.


*You listened to a play. Now listen to another play that was on at the same time the next day.

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